Wellness Wednesday: Go Through, Not Around

Go Through, Not Around

Sometimes we get into a funk.  We have those days when, for whatever reason, we’re just not that into whatever that thing is we’re usually into. We have “the blahs” or are grieving or feeling depressed. We know what we can do to feel better: spend time with a friend, go outside, or make some art, but we just don’t have the energy, desire, or motivation to do any of those things.

I’m not going to tell you to smile when you don’t feel like smiling or to push through the funk until you find your happy.  Just the opposite: go through the pain–not around it.  Around is an avoidance. It’s putting a bandaid on the issue, and a mask on yourself.

“Sadness gives depth. Happiness gives height. Sadness gives roots. Happiness gives branches. Happiness is like a tree going into the sky, and sadness is like the roots going down into the womb of the earth. Both are needed, and the higher a tree goes, the deeper it goes, simultaneously. The bigger the tree, the bigger will be its roots. In fact, it is always in proportion. That’s its balance.” -Osho

Sometimes, self-care looks like staying in bed, not answering the phone, ordering take-out, and being present with your blahs. Yes, your friends and family will struggle with watching you like this. They may try to make you feel better. Their efforts may make you feel guilty for being where you are and feeling the way you feel.  But you have to trust that while you are in grief or sadness, your mind is working things out below the surface.  These mini “breaks” are like a nap for your soul….rejuvinating and energizing in their own way.

Sometimes, we need a day to just BE, without the responsibilities of everyday life or the guilt that we’re doing something wrong. So, I challenge you to go through your pain,  not around it. Wellness may be on the other side.